The Habits of Unhappy People

(Updated Version)

Whether surprising or not, the percentage of unhappy people has spiraled further over the years. It is becoming increasingly difficult to find individuals who can truly connect - those who share simple moments of joy, laughter, and meaningful conversations. 

Socializing or even being around people these days requires a great deal of caution, as people are hyper-sensitive and crave constant validation about themselves. From our coaching and counseling sessions, we have gathered insights into the habits of unhappy people.

Complainers

Unhappy individuals have an endless list of things to complain about. Whether it's dissatisfaction with a dining experience, others not following traffic rules, or colleagues not meeting expectations at work, everything seems to be a source of grievance. Digging deeper, they often complain about the people who they feel made them unhappy or ignored them (QUICK WAYS TO DESTRESS).

 

Jealousy and Envy
Unhappy people are often consumed by jealousy and envy. They struggle to celebrate others’ successes and achievements, instead feeling resentment towards those who are positive and doing better. They somehow cannot accept that others are moving forward, or doing something about their lives. Unhappy people just do not want others who are positive, and it hurts them badly inside. 

Gossiping and Rumor Mongering

Spending time gossiping and spreading rumors is another common habit of unhappy people. Even when there is nothing substantial to discuss, they find ways to needle others and create discord. Their aim is often to provoke reactions, be it through subtle jabs or outright criticism, and they do not hesitate to be openly nasty or sarcastic to others.

 

Back Stabbing
Unhappy individuals thrive on backstabbing. They pass remarks or humiliate others behind their backs, rarely confronting the person directly. Their dishonesty extends beyond just interactions - they often humiliate family members, spouses, children, and anyone who matters to the person they are targeting. They derive satisfaction from witnessing the discomfort and pain of others. 

 

Show Offs
Show-offs among unhappy people are loud and boastful. They frequently brag about their success, intelligence, and perceived superiority. Their focus is solely on self-glorification, with little regard for others' thoughts or contributions. These individuals crave attention, often leading discussions and dominating conversations with grandiose declarations.

Plot Together

Unhappy individuals often find strength in numbers, ganging up with other unhappy people to plot the downfall of others. They attract like-minded individuals and create a circle where negativity thrives. Together, they focus on demeaning and shaming others, reinforcing their mutual dissatisfaction.

 

Religious People
Ironically, unhappy individuals can sometimes appear very religious. They pray fervently and present themselves as the epitome of virtue. However, their religiousness can be more about projecting a perfect image to others rather than an authentic connection with their beliefs. 

These individuals often hide behind the guise of holiness to mask their true unhappiness. They avoid discussing personal struggles, instead adopting a facade of contentment that eventually reveals itself through subtle cues - body language, tone, or overall demeanor - betraying the reality of their emotional state.

Have you noticed such people? What do you think of these unhappy people? In the coming article, we will speak about - The Beginners Guide To Happiness.

(Ms. Nava is a Zen entrepreneur who founded Nava's Zen at 58 and is now in her 60s. She is a certified yoga instructor, coach, and counselor. With over 22 years of lecturing experience, including 13 years in the Curtin University Australia Degree Twinning Program, she shares her passion for Zenfulness through the small steps we take towards aging gracefully and fostering personal growth).